Friday, March 11, 2011

Update to the update

Uh-oh. DH and I dtd last night. Without protection. On day 20 (pre-pregnancy I was a day 18 or 19 ovulator). What have I gotten us into? Half of me hopes it was too late for the sake of my marriage. The other half wants another baby asap. I guess I'm in the two week wait. Exciting. And scary.

Just to be clear, DH knows I'm not on the pill. I didn't trick him. It bugs me that I'm feeling the least bit guilty about this. Haven't we heard since high school that women should not have to be solely responsible for birth control? Just because it's uncomfortable to talk about does not mean I coerced him into anything. I'm done feeling bad about this. (and btw, how did this ever become an issue for a married couple in their thirties?!)


  1. scary stuff. i hope everything works out the best way that it can for you and your family.

  2. I think your DH might think how I think, if it took me "this long" to have baby #1, what are the chances to have baby #2...

    It is exciting and scary. A whirlwind of emotions.

    Happy 2 week wait :)

  3. Thanks girls.

    katery - it's a little less scary these days. Our marriage is stronger. We get updates from his dog's new family that confirm it was the right decision. I brought up the "taboo" subject of - anything could happen we didn't use protection - and he was basically like "I know." Like no biggie. I think he feels like he's losing this battle (all his family is pressuring him to have more kids too, not necessarily this soon, but eventually) so might as well give up sooner rather than later.

    Melissa - totally. he's a guy. guys tend to think "it won't happen to me" while girls have sex once and think - I'm going to get pregnant! I blame entrenched gender roles. It's the same reason I feel all guilty and weird and he feels pretty much apathetic or doesn't think about it at all.

    Anyway, we're getting along really well lately so if the "unexpected" happens, I'm pretty sure we'll be ok.